What Radical Husbands Do
This is what I’ve been working on for 45 years. Not the book, my marriage.
What’s bigger than our marriages?
Our marriages might be the most valuable thing we have and the most undervalued thing we have.
Spend a little time with old men who are widowers and you’ll find out. They’d give just about anything to ‘have her back’ even for a little while. “I took her for granted” they say. Like other things we take for granted, we don’t focus on our marriage when things are good. But when she’s leaving, sick or dying, it hits us how valuable she is. How much we need her. How much we’d miss her. How irreplaceable she is.
I’ve come to believe marriages are generally in one of three places. They’re in great shape, they’re muddling around in the middle, or they’re in trouble. They move around sometimes. A few in the middle get better, a few of the great ones stay great, but the ‘gravitational pull’ of life is toward trouble. . . toward divorce. That’s why more marriages end in divorce than stay together.
Our marriage visited all three. We started strong – nothing but love for a couple of years. Then it felt like we were muddling around for the next 11 or 12. Kids came. I got new jobs and promotions. We moved 5 times in 9 years. Bigger houses. More stuff. Before we knew it, our marriage was in trouble. We sought counseling, we separated for a few days, we even got visited by the preacher. Thankfully, we turned things around and now have a marriage that’s about as good as it gets. Don’t get me wrong . . . it’s still hard. We’re still very different. But I won my wife’s heart back, and I’ve kept her heart for a long time now. I still have a ways to go (hopefully) but I’m “in it to win it”.
I’m all in!
Over these years, I’ve written down the principles and practices that made it happen. That won her heart. That have led to her being engaged, committed and happy. Through 13 years of mentoring young married guys, I’ve poured these principles and practices into ‘my guys’. They’ve seen them ‘work’ in their own marriages. In fact, only 2 of 104 marriages have blown up so far and both divorces have been driven by the wife, not the husband.
So say hello to What Radical Husbands Do: 12 Steps to Win and Keep Your Wife’s Heart. This is a short simple book written to men by a man. What’s here can work for great marriages and those in the middle. But I think they can be especially helpful to guys whose marriages are in trouble. My dream through writing has been to create a book we safely could give a friend or brother or co-worker or neighbor . . . any man whose marriage might need help. It’s written without any reference to faith until near the end. It’s not a bunch of psychology or self-improvement stuff.
It’s ‘doable’ stuff.
Is there someone in your life who’s undervalued his marriage and wants to “step it up a notch”? Is there a guy whose marriage is in trouble . . . who might just turn things around if he knew what to do? Knew what steps to take? Click here to order now
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Responses (5)
Glad to see Mrs. Campbell on the back cover. Do we also get to hear from her on how radical you really are?
She speaks her mind in the “Afterword” at the end of the book. It might be the best two pages.
Regi —
You say that more marriages end in divorce than stay together. Are you sure about that? My friend says this: “Even a cursory search on the internet will yield multiple results that accurately explain divorce rates and how the data has been manipulated and misreported. Further, the data on believers is even more altered. Two major studies last year done by secular researchers showed that there is a dramatic drop in divorces among Christians who attend church regularly, drops even more when those who attend regularly are involved in some sort of ministry, and drops even more so when those who attend and are involved pray together. Being a disciple of Christ makes a huge difference! It’s terribly unfortunate that people in positions of influence continue to peddle misinformation. Very damaging.”
Mark, I apologize if I published misinformation. This book isn’t intended for any other purpose than to inspire men to take responsibility for their marriages and to take action to win and keep their wife’s heart. I read about those studies and yes, the divorce rate is incredibly low among those who pray with their wives regularly. At the same time, who hasn’t heard of a committed disciple of Christ or a pastor ‘falling’, often because he pursued ministry at the expense of his wife’s heart? The last chapter of “What Radical Husbands Do” explains the Gospel and clearly says the only way for a man to ‘love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her’ is to give up, surrendering his heart to Jesus. My prayer is that men who are struggling in their marriages will be challenged by my story and the steps I’ve offered for winning her heart and staying together. Thanks for your comment. Please stay in the dialog. We’re on the same team.
Might be? (-;