Author Archives: Regi Campbell

Alligator Arms

My friend Rusty (an Auburn man) uses this metaphor all the time. When it feels like what you want to touch is just out of your reach. No matter how hard you think, how far you stretch or how strong your body, you can’t grab hold. Can’t do anything with it. Alligator arms. That’s how...

Why Would God Want to Talk to Me?

Imagine having a child, fathered by you or adopted . . . doesn’t matter. Now imagine raising that child without ever speaking to him. He comes to you all the time, asking for stuff, pouring out his needs. He worships the ground you walk on. He adores you. But you never speak back to him....

The Power of Self-Disclosure (Part II)

When we last left our story, a guy was pedaling toward his high school girlfriend’s house as hard as he could. Hurt by his wife, he’s about to mess up big time. He’s given himself permission to sin. He’s decided he’s almost entitled to it. Somewhere along the way, he stops for a minute. He’s...

The Power of Self-Permission (Part I)

So a guy goes to his high school reunion and they pass out a directory with every classmates’ address and phone number. There’s the address of Arlene, his high school sweetheart (she was the homecoming queen and drop-dead gorgeous). He doesn’t think much of it…files away the directory and goes about his business. A few...

The Questions Around “Calling”

When you don’t understand something, find someone smarter than you and ask them for help. I’ve heard the word “Calling” forever. Even read Os Guiness’ classic book The Call. But I still didn’t get it, at least not in a practical way. Enter Andy Stanley. I was blessed to hear him speak on the subject...

Voices

We hear voices in our heads all the time. We’re not crazy because we hear voices (at least not all of us). Most of the time we’re hearing ourselves; we’re giving ourselves instructions, thinking about what we have to do next, thinking about people we care about or mulling things over. But there are other...

It’s Jesus

Coming off the ‘mountain top’ of our first-ever mentoring retreat, I’m reminded that Jesus is it. Reading about the religious environment He walked into and the religious environment His followers have created over the last 2000 years, I’m back at square one. I’m back to Jesus. When he was a kid, my brother-in-law’s house caught...

Empathy and Self-Esteem

If empathy is simply connecting with people’s feelings, why is it so hard? All us Jesus-followers want empathy, right? “They will know we are Christians by our love” falls apart if we can’t meet people where they are and connect with their emotions. Hard to love someone well without knowing their heart. I believe the...

Men and Empathy

A man with empathy is about as likely as a man in high-heeled shoes. It rarely comes with the boy. I wish I had it….I really do. But I’m missing the chip. The DNA from my parents must have overheated in transit. I know empathy when I see it and on the rare occasion it...

The Happy Wife Pledge Controversy

There have been 266 posts from Radical Mentoring. Of all these posts, “The Happy Wife Pledge” has been the most commented-on by a factor of 10. By far the most controversial. Here’s the part of the pledge that’s making everyone’s teeth itch… “I will stop talking about sex. I will make no other comments, jokes,...